There are two popular myths that are destroying our health, productivity, and potential:
- That the best way to motivate ourselves is to apply willpower, and
- That we need to feel a certain way (‘motivated’) in order to take action.
It turns out that you don’t need to cultivate an angry, all-or-nothing, Full Metal jacket drill sergeant to beat yourself up into following through on the habits you want to create, or to stop the bad habits. Gentle Discipline is what naturally arises as we recognize that those myths are both not true and (more importantly) not helpful. Even Tony Horton, the founder of P90X admits that he doesn’t get fired up about exercise most of the time.
Habit change starts to become surprisingly easy once you start catching all of the ways that you’ve been innocently getting in your own way. Gentle Discipline reintroduces a foundation of self-compassion, honesty, and ease. You become an unstoppable force not through intensity or will, but through simplicity, tiny actions, and not overthinking it.